As the Holidays fast approach, this can be a very difficult time for many. Between families coming together, presents being bought, missing those that are no longer with us or are unable to make it home for the holidays, days can seem hard and unpredictable.
When it comes to holidays, my family and I (my biological family) haven’t spent a holiday together in quite some time. The only reason why this doesn’t sadden me is that whenever I go home or my family comes to Ontario, we make it seem like a holiday is happening!
We have been known to give gifts in July and wish each other a Merry Christmas and we just have it be that the holiday is “whenever we are together”.
In the past few years, my family (here in Ontario) have experienced some big losses and while it was not easy for any of us, we have been able to come together and celebrate those who are no longer here and work on making new traditions while still keeping the original ones.
What I have learned this far in my 41 years of life, is that everything comes down to perspective and I get to say how I react to things that are happening in my life. That is sometimes really hard to see and I need the support of my loved one’s and friends to guide me in getting past what it is that has come up.
It is not a bad thing to ask for support. For someone to talk to, confide in and genuinely let them in to support you during this time…when we are truly in the giving spirit of the holidays, what there is to give is love.
Unconditional love. To all.