Recently I did an assignment where I was asked to ask 5 people I know well and 5 people I don’t know so well what they think my most valuable skills, abilities and unique traits are.
When I saw this exercise, I had a moment of being worried to ask. Do I really want to know what others think of me? Will I like or not like their answers? How quick will they respond or do they have to think about it?
All this personal judging and assessing of myself reared its ugly head and I began to go down a bit of a tunnel. Before I took the full turn into the tunnel of my brain where there is no coming back, I quickly typed up the text and sent it out to 10 people and exhaled as the question that was consuming my thoughts fired its way through cyberspace into the hands of 10 unknowing individuals.
Within minutes my phone began to ‘ding’ with incoming messages. As I opened the texts I was flooded with emotions. My eyes could not believe what I was reading. ‘optimistic, energetic, incredible listener, compassionate, exceptional leader, integral, extreme social intelligence, genuine as fuck, willingness to learn & unlearn to support communities, ability to always find the silver lining, writer, determination & stand, approachable’ & the list went on….
All the things I “wished” I could be were now before me in the eyes of others as to who I am…..I suddenly had nowhere to get to. I could now see I AM these things I always “wished” I could be.
The text also had a few ask… “Are you applying for a job? I know a company that would love to have you!” Which made me giggle a little with flattery. It also opened a communication of others asking this question back to me about them. It became extremely empowering for everyone!
I see now that I have been relating to myself as small, not able to make a BIG difference…only a little blip on a screen and I had so much more work to do to be the person I always wanted to be.
But now, Here I am.
I share this as I do not feel that I am alone in my judgement or assessment of ones Self. I do believe that the hardest person on our Self is typically our own Self! I was blinded by my own view and until asking others, unclear that there was any other view out there other than the small one I had created for me.
Doing this assignment awakened me to what I have actually been creating in the world and has given me an opportunity to move forward with all my goals knowing that I am who I always hoped I could be for myself and others.
I personally do not want to live my life alone. If I am to succeed, I want others to come with and know that I am here for them and we can make this world a better place TOGETHER. The truth is I actually get that this dream of mine is completely possible and I have an incredible group of people around me that we are all cheering each other on to win.
I have pivoted on one foot out of the tunnel and back into the light to breathe new air into my lungs. Now it is time to take on life with rejuvenated passion and purpose knowing that I am bigger than my own thoughts.
If you are feeling stuck in a negative thought about yourself, I invite you to reach out to your community and be brave to ask this question. I truly believe you will learn a lot about who you REALLY are beyond the thoughts you THINK you are.