Health & Well Being, Personal Stories

I Am Under Construction…It Is A GREAT Thing!

I have discovered that everything in life, jobs, relationships, being alive, is always evolving and if I stay “static” or not moving in one area then everything eventually seems like it gets “stuck”. It becomes a force that is very hard to move forward.

The beginning of 2018 brought upon many incidents/accidents that have had me begin to re-evaluate much of what I have been working on.  Not like a problem, only that knowing when many challenges show up, sometimes it is like the universe’s way of saying “HELLO TAMMY!! Are you listening?”

The most prominent that started my year were 2 car accidents less than 2 month’s apart. Both times I was rear-ended and ended up with whiplash and concussions. The second time I was hit, my car that I just purchased less than 6 month’s prior to the accidents, it didn’t make it.

Being that I work primarily in the fitness industry this was very hard physically to see some of the limitations I was having after both accidents.  I had headaches regularly, my body was very sore constantly.  I would easily forget things I had just done or said in the first few weeks following these accidents. It was terribly frustrating at the time.

Thankfully, I know my body well and went directly to my chiropractor and medical doctor right after the accidents. I immediately got the support I needed and have bounced back extremely quickly so I can keep working doing what I love.

That being said, the accidents also opened something up for me. I realized I really had no back up plan if something were to happen that I didn’t “bounce back” again if something else were to happen. The question to myself was “If I am not able to dance anymore, then what?”

I realized this year that my passion is and always will be to support others in discovering what lights them up. Supporting others in finding the relationships they are looking for. Supporting people of all abilities to move and find their groove! Supporting others in making their dreams reality, whether it be fitness goals, relationships, financial, building businesses, creating extraordinary events, and so much more.

The company I have built, the Live OUT LOUD Movement, is so much more than just a fitness program based primarily in Zumba Fitness.

The Live OUT LOUD Movement is a LIFE MOVEMENT.

A place to take all that seems like heavy weights on our shoulders and discover the silver lining within them all to produce extraordinary results in the face of no agreement in life.

I truly believe that everything happens in our lives for a reason. Even all the “bad stuff” that I wish never happened. I see it as it had to happen to show me something that I couldn’t see was available before. In the moment, it never “feels” that way, however the true gift of this MOVEMENT is the opportunity to look more in-depth at what is happening and discover what I/we can’t see right away.  Discovering the knowledge that is hidden deep within what ails us to creating a strong and vibrant life that impacts ourselves and others by what is discovered!

I am in the process of rebuilding new aspects to the Live OUT LOUD Movement and new offerings over the next few months to really dive deep into what is possible through this company to help people in a unique way.

I hope you stick around to see what is next and how it all plays out. I will always continue to dance for as long as my body will let me, you can bet money on that and now is the time for me to take what I have built thus far and expand it far beyond where it is today!

EXCITING TIMES!

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Benefits of Movement

Do You Lose Your “Self” In Relationships?

Relationships work best when each person continues to know who they are for themselves and to honor the other.

What does that really mean?

I personally, have been in quite a few relationships and one thing I have noticed that always had the relationship fall apart was if I or the person I was with stopped being who they are to suit my needs or for me to suit their needs.  It is like giving up your identity to please someone else.

There is a level at which being with one another that we do need to compromise and find interests that we share together, however, when I was giving up who I was or what was important to me, I stopped doing the things I loved to do.  For example hobbies, sports, being out with friends.

I became dependant on that person to have my life be happy  and working (I had myself no longer be responsible for my own happiness) and inevitably it would end. When I was in a relationship where the other person would behave in this way I saw myself looking to see how far I could push it and when no matter what I did they just had to be there I would eventually end the relationship.

I have discovered in the relationship I am in now, a whole world that I didn’t know was actually possible.  We both came into the relationship (9 years ago) not looking for anything. There was no expectation of a long-term commitment and we both had no attachment to making anything work. Over time we just realized we had fun together. We honored what each other loved to do and gave each other the personal time that couples so desperately need to continue to be their own self.

My partner and I say what is on our mind to each other and we also make sure before we say it that we are saying it in a way that the other person can hear it and does not feel attacked.  Sometimes I open with “I need to talk to you and I am not sure how this is going to come out and I want you to know it is totally not my intention to make you upset…” and then I say what I need to say.  He does the same.  It allows us to communicate in such a way that we can hear each other and do not take the words personally or in a “bad” way.

He and I have our life together and we also have our own lives, which we share about with one another and may not be a participant in it. For example, my partner is an avid photographer. He takes workshops, etc, and shares about them with me but I may not participate.  I am an avid lover of dance and dance all the time, he does not dance and although he tries from time to time….let’s just say it’s not his forte and he chooses not to!

We never attempt to pretend that we like something the other person is doing or try to “become” what they want.  We are accepting of each others individuality and I truly believe that’s what makes us work. Open communication, accepting and being true to who we are. We love each other dearly and we are not obsessed over how our relationship needs to look.

If you look at the relationship you are in now or the relationship you want…are you hooked by the expectations you have? Do you lose your “self” in relationships? 

Look to see. It may be the key to you finding the relationship of your dreams!

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Benefits of Movement, Health & Well Being, Personal Stories

Cynthia’s Journey Through Fitness…..INSPIRING!

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Recently I was speaking with one of my regular clients Cynthia who has been coming to my Zumba fitness classes for just over a year.  She was sharing with me how happy she is that she made the change in her life and found a fitness that she truly loves to do each week.

I said to her, “I know you have lost some weight, it would be so great if you had some before and after pictures so we could see the difference”.

She said “I do! Here!”

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My jaw nearly hit the floor!

As an instructor, I can see changes but I had no idea how much her whole body had shifted.  She shared with me that with working out typically 3 times a week in my classes it also had her naturally making better food choices and within the year the weight has naturally just melted off.  She has not used any other form to lose any of the weight other than zumba classes, eating healthy and dancing her way through life! 🙂

Cynthia is a bright light in class and you can see by the way she laugh’s and plays and dances through class that her confidence and love for music and herself shines so bright!

The classes I teach are not just solely about losing weight…and while that tends to be a great “side-effect”, they are also about building self-confidence, releasing stress and finding an outlet to support you in living the life you deserve!

Cynthia is a great example of taking on all of the elements of the Live OUT LOUD Movement classes and I could not be prouder of her accomplishments so far!

Just think, this could be you! Your story….YOUR JOURNEY!

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Personal Stories

Tragedy Gets Us Present To So Much More…

I have had a hard time writing since friday.  I got a message from a friend in the U.S. about a shooting in a saskatchewan school and the fear I had for my niece and friends who are teachers in that province and here in Toronto left me completely paralyzed in my thoughts.

There is so much violence in the world that it has become so common that I saw how I have become numb in a way to what has been going on….

Saturday morning when I heard what happened on friday was one of the first times, I can see in a long time, that I had the experience like all this violence was much too close to home.  I was filled with so much sadness and upset for the world in which we live. For me, it was like that was the one place where that kind of violence could never happen and yet it did.

My heart goes out to those families and the communities all across the province and all the world that are affected by the ongoing violence.

Growing up on the prairies was such a gift that my parents gave me.  The community and love that you find in saskatchewan is like no other.  There is a closeness.  A genuine love for each other and caring in my experience.

What I continue to learn daily is that staying positive, being kind to others, looking for the silver lining is not only a way of life for me but it is my job to ensure others are able to look at their lives and deal powerfully with whatever shows up and create a life they love too.  This may be a small piece that I can give back to the world and it is something I will work at everyday to ensure those around me have freedom.

They say by positively impacting one child the reach of that child can be as great as 10,000 people….I can only hope that by giving that to people of all ages the reach can expand to hundreds of thousands of people.

The message for today: Be kind to one another. Do something that lights up your soul, has someone else smile, that brings joy to those around you.

If you are having a tough day, be in communication with someone who can support you and/or get to a fitness class and sweat out some HAPPY endorphins so you can think clearly.  You are never alone in this world.

I love you all.

Tammy

 

 

Personal Stories

Living In The Present And In The World With Others

Yesterday was a cold day in the city of Toronto.  I dreaded having to go out and bus and subway to my first class which takes me about an hour to get to.  I waited for my bus for about 15 minutes in the cold and struck up a conversation with the girl standing near me.  The time passed rather quickly when I was just being with another person.

Once in the subway and on the train, instead of picking up my phone or listening to music I just sat and was present to my surroundings and the people who rode along with me.  It is really interesting to look at people and imagine what life is like for them.  Although we really don’t know, and NEVER assume that you do know, there were a few faces that looked so sad.  They had a look of loneliness and others were buried deep into their electronics and never looked up to notice others or that the train was stopping.  Connecting and making eye contact with the few who were just sitting, I would smile at them and some would smile back and others would dart their eyes in the opposite direction.

Human beings are very interesting!

Once at my change stop to jump on the Yonge line, I saw a young girl sitting on the floor of the station doing a crossword puzzle with two dogs that layed quite content with their heads in her lap.  She had a sign sitting on the floor in front of her that read “Homeless. Anything you can spare makes a difference”.

She did not beg. She did not ask.

She sat there quietly completing her crossword with her dogs.  As I walked past her I couldn’t help but think that my complaints earlier in the day about having to leave my warm home and take a bus and subway were quite petty complaints compared to what this young woman must be experiencing.  I didn’t know her story or what had her be homeless and it was not my place to judge.

I started to walk up the stairs to the next platform and something inside of me kept telling me to turn around and give her something.  I stopped halfway up the stairs and everyone behind me got quite angry as I turned around and began my way back down to her.

I didn’t care.

When I got the bottom I opened my wallet and all I had was a $20 bill.  I thought for a moment about what I needed that $20 for and I couldn’t think of anything more important than giving it to her.

I approached her and kneeled down to her.  “This is for you. Please stay warm today. I can see you, you are important”, and I gave her a smile.  She looked at me in shock and then a smile spread across her face.

“Thank you so much.” she said as I could visibly see her eyes well up.

As I stood up I knew it was all the right thing to do. This young ladies face is so fresh in my mind even today.  She was maybe early twenties like my step daughter and who knows what her story is and I didn’t need to know it to help her.

I cannot imagine how hard it is to live on the street and I do hope I never have to.  It is one of those things that we may think could never happen to us.  I often think those who are on the street never thought it would happen to them either but there they are.

The relationships that we have with others is also a product of the relationships we have with ourselves to others.  Are you present to others when they are speaking to you? Do you listen or are you too quick to judge and can’t hear what they are really saying?

Be present to your surroundings today and grateful for the life you have. We only get this one.

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Personal Stories

The Struggle of Comparison is Real in Our Minds

The struggle is real. At least it occurs that way for me in the moment it is happening.

Do you ever compare yourself to others success….like “why does it always work out for them and not me?”

Whether it be in relationships, career, fitness, winning the lottery….all of it. There are times when the comparison game is really real and it takes me down a dark tunnel or “I am not good enough”.

As soon as I begin to play the comparison game, I begin to struggle to even be happy for another person succeeding in whatever area it is.  I begin to wonder why it doesn’t work out for me and how long will I stay in this broken condition until something awesome like what happened to Bob (or whatever their name was) will happen to me.

ME ME ME ME ME!  Ever been there?

I have learned it has very little to do with me and it never did.  Yes, all that stressing and comparing is really useless and here is why…. are you ready for it….

NOT ONE of us is made EXACTLY the same…..even identical twins are not EXACTLY identical.  They may look-alike but if you look really close you will notice subtle differences and they make different decisions and choices just like everybody else.

The good news really is that not one of us is exactly the same and therefore comparing ourselves to others is really a crazy practice that our thoughts enjoy doing to us!

The moment that I begin to go down the road of comparing where I am at or my success to another person, I make myself stop and look at all the things I have to be grateful for in my life.  It takes practice.

The even crazier thing is sometimes those who we compare ourselves to are comparing themselves TO US!  As a human this is really a natural phenomenon that we have to train our brain to not get wrapped up in comparing ourselves to others.

I am better, you are better than me, she is better than him, he is better than that guy….blah blah blah blah blah.  At the end of the day that person who “looks” super successful may be the one who goes home and wishes for a different life and is struggling everyday.  Then you see the person living in a tiny apartment working a job YOU think is terrible and they are so happy and are travelling the world meeting new people….. We really just don’t know and if we only look at the surface of people we never really know who a person is.

My husband is very successful at what he does and he loves what he does.  I cannot even for a moment compare myself to him because our fields of work are very different and there are times when my mind says “God, I wish I was as happy as him….” the crazy part is….I AM! It just doesn’t look the same way as him.

I find our brains and thought patterns to be extremely fascinating and mainly because I have been watching my own and others around me for so many years.  The struggle that I create for myself in the moment IS real because I allow my thoughts to say it is and then that is when I get stuck in my life and feel like nothing is happening.

Can anyone relate?

Think about who you compare yourself to and give yourself from freedom today to remind yourself that YOU ARE NOT THEM.  You are unique in your own way and display talents only you possess.  You are individual and that is pretty awesome to discover!  Take a moment to make a list of your talents and all that you have to be grateful for in your life.  Put aside all worry and doubt. LIVE in THIS moment.

Are you ready to talk with someone about what you are dealing with?  Are you committed to having 2016 be your best year yet and have a specific goal you want to go to work on and need someone to hold you accountable?  Are you ready to live YOUR life?  Email me below and let’s talk:

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Health & Well Being, Personal Stories

YOU Are In Every One Of YOUR Relationships…

I have noticed over the years that in all the relationships I have had that were not working with others, I was always in them…..

Coincidence? I think not.  

For the record, I never used to think this way, that is that it had anything to do with me.  I used to have it like there was something wrong with “them” over there…you know the “one” who keeps doing it all wrong or saying things that were so dumb and clearly with no thought first!  I would complain about how what they said was so stupid and how “they” hurt my feelings and didn’t understand me.

Then there was the defining moment in my life when I realized that ALL my relationships kept ending and I was always the one in them.  It was actually kind of funny in the moment I could see it.

People had no hope hanging out with me.  You said something that I “thought” was hurting me and I would run.  I had the best pair of invisible running shoes…..you wouldn’t even know that I took off running because physically I would still be standing right in front of you but in my mind, I was outta there!  Soon I would stop answering my phone, avoid being in places they were at and eventually own up and end it and then I would be the victim like they had done something to me and that’s why it all went down the way it did.

The truth was, I was a jerk and not responsible.  If everybody got a long in the world that would be awesome and also a tad bit weird.  It is actually okay to not see eye to eye with someone. However, it’s not okay to be a jerk to them, cut them off at the knees and then blame them for how YOUR life is turning out.

Have you done this? Are you doing it now?

Consider, blame, shame and guilt tactics are just a way to avoid taking ownership of your relationships and life.

When I could see how I blamed my ex husband for why our marriage fell apart, I could actually see what a jerk I had been being too.  He didn’t stand a chance for us to end everything amicably until many years later. The poor souls who dated me after that marriage….seriously, you were all amazing and you didn’t stand a chance to get to know the REAL Tammy.  My guard was up 24/7 and anything you did that I didn’t like would just be the check mark I could mentally put beside the list of ways in which “people hurt me”.

I have to say, that was really the hardest way to live and my biggest struggle time in my life.  Literally, it was like the light bulb came on one day and I stopped blaming everyone (even those I didn’t realize I was blaming….until the light bulb came on) for where my life was at and I began to really own all my mistakes and errors. I began to be in communication and apologize to those I hurt along the way  and that began to have me have freedom from the past life I had created.

Over the years I have learned a lot.  I have learned that it really doesn’t matter how people treat me, I have a choice and a say in how I react and act to it.  I get to say how my life goes through “good” times and “bad”.  It is not what someone does or says to me that defines my life, it is who I am being in my life that defines me.

There is no outside source from me that can hurt me, only I can hurt me by what I choose to believe or tell myself about any situation or comment made.

As humans, I find, we get so mixed up with this because we really do have differing opinions and thoughts to how things should go and when others do not agree with us….well this is where the conversation of how will YOU react comes in.  We see people starting physical fights over parking spots even….parking spots people? Really???

I have learned that NOBODY can hurt me when I come from owning my life fully.

Do I have moments where I react like somebody has done something to me and I am hurt?

Yes.

Then when I am done giving my power away to words of another, I look at how I reacted to what they said and what I told myself about that and then I forgive MYSELF for being so cruel to me.  The lesson here is the only one who can hurt you, is you.  In every relationship you have….YOU are always there.  The place to look so you have power is to look at YOU!

OWN YOUR LIFE and you will never live another day upset/hurt by what others say or do.

Are you ready to take on your life fully in 2016 and OWN your relationships, life, career, health?  Need someone to support you through the process?  Send me an email and let’s get started!

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Personal Stories

This Past Summer I Got Married…and Then What?

This past summer I got married to my one true love. I know he is my true love because with him, I can say anything and I have no fear. I can be me and he doesn’t leave and there really are a ton of reason I could go on to share with you why he is but I think you get the point.

We have been together for 8+ years and it was about a year and half ago I  asked him to marry me. From that date we spent just over a year planning and creating the most Crazy Ass wedding possible. If you ask our guests, we pulled that off. It was really awesome….food trucks, hip hop dancers, live band, graffiti artist, guests painting our wall, sand to play with, 2 open bars, the most delicious cakes made by our awesome neighbor and the list goes on…..a couple of days after the wedding we set sail on a fantastic 3 week honeymoon in Italy. Oh, it was magical!

When we returned home, I went to sleep that night and woke up the next day with one question…

“Now what?”

It was like all the magic we had been working on creating and the celebrating was now done and I was left with a lonely panic feeling.  It was the first time I was really discovering the “woe…I am married….AGAIN….I didn’t do so well the first time….who am I now as a married woman?”  and so began a string of questions I began to ask myself and began to stress about.

I became distant from others….(remember this was an internal conversation although I am sure my actions could have shown you what was going on in my head) until I discovered for myself the thing I had stopped doing after the wedding was quite simple…

I STOPPED creating what was next.  My NOW husband and I used to plan date nights whether it be spontaneous or one we actually put in the calendar. We would go do random things. We would hit the gym together, find a jazz concert, go shopping, spend an afternoon catching a matinée and then hit a pub.  All these things we used to do together, I suddenly stopped doing.

When I could see it, it was like the elephant in the room was standing before me and now I couldn’t see around it.  Suddenly all I could think of was all the stuff I wanted to go do and see with Nino and I began to fall in love with him and our relationship all over again.  I told him about the thoughts I was having and he agreed that we went a bit off track after with who we know ourselves to be.

From that moment, we began to create again.  A saturday afternoon of massages and then chillin watching movies, going out to the movie after a great dinner out, laying in bed and reading beside each other, telling jokes, finding a concert to go to, paint nite, sharing everything.

What I have learned over the years is a relationship doesn’t make it self, I make it. I want it, I go get it. When I own my relationships then I can never play the victim of it and it is such a powerful place to stand.  I have learned that if I count on my relationship being a 50/50 deal…I have given away 50% of the power. If I own it 100%, I create it and how it will go and the other person easily walks into it and often gets right in there are starts creating the fun too!

Life is fun and the relationships we have in life are a way for us to test what we are learning.

Always learn from them!  Be a student of gracious humanity in your life!

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Health & Well Being

What is a Fitness & Wellness Architect?

That’s me!

I am someone who works with you to design the structure that will support you in creating a fitness, relationship and health program that you are IN LOVE WITH!

It all starts with a foundation. Some place to work from. By getting to learn what’s actually happening in your life and so about where you are at we can then begin to work together to see where you want to be and design along the way all the “support beams” will need to go….

These techniques can be used to support you in creating the relationships of your dreams, the career you really want, whatever it may be.

When you can see what it is that YOU really want to take on then you are working from what you are committed to and not what someone else is committed to.  Working from what it is that you are committed to is what will have you see results. Often times in life we go by what we “think” others want us to do or be and then we spend our days struggling to fit someone else’s mold.  It never works out well.

In my calls with you we work through a system to discover what is it that you really want out of life and then begin to work on building the structure to support that.  When you can see it….that’s when the planning becomes fun and adventure-filled!

Are you ready to build your life? Put in the windows? Put up the support beams? Create the structure?

I am ready! Let’s Talk:

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Personal Stories

Relationships: Tammy & Nino…NOT Love at First Sight!

 

The truth is, Nino and I were NOT a “love at first sight” couple. In fact, quite the opposite.  Nino thought I was stuck up and I thought he was a guy who dated everybody.  While we knew of each other and were taking a course in the same room for 7 months, I had no interest in getting to know him and had no interest in getting to know me.

It wasn’t until one night while our whole class was in new york for a weekend session (literally the month before the course ended) that Nino walked into my friends hotel room on the friday night before class and asked “who wants to go for a martini?”, that I finally spoke up.  Surprisingly, I didn’t want a martini at that time….class was going to start shortly and I was actually offended that he wanted to have a drink before class. (yes, I may have been a little up tight back then….)  I told him that he shouldn’t be going for drinks before class but if he wanted to get one after class, I would join him.  He agreed and so set the events that led to our relationship.

That night we went for a martini after class and talked and talked and talked.  It was like two people who knew nothing about each other just picking random topics to ask the other about.  Neither of us were looking for a relationship.  It wasn’t even a date or anything. Just two people talking.  The first night we closed the bar down talking. We agreed to have a drink again the next night and keep talking, and we did.

By sunday, Nino came to me during the day and said “I am really not looking for anything however, when get back to Toronto, I would like to keep hanging out with you. Are you up for that?”  I thought to myself there is no harm in that and I am not looking for anything either. “Sure.”

When we came back to Toronto, the adventure continued and as we grew closer and more intimate and our coaches (from the program we were taking) found out about our relationship and they asked us to take the coaching and not have an intimate relationship for 60 days. To take 60 days and just get to know each other intellectually and if at the end of 60 days we still felt there was something there then we could go for it.  We lasted ALMOST 45 days (sorry guys…we didn’t make it 60 days!), I think it was, when we knew we both were really attracted to one another both mentally and physically.  It was some of the BEST coaching I have ever taken!

We were related to one another on a much more intimate level than just physical.  We had become great friends, listeners and understood how each other worked and thought.

At about a year together we sat down and agreed we should have the “deal-breaker” talk. What this was for us was that in relationships often times there are things for each us of that if the other person does it or doesn’t want it, it is what gets in the way of the relationship working and will slowly have it all unravel and fall apart so we decided to lay all the “deal-breakers” out on the table at one year together so if it was a big enough breaker then we could walk away then or work it out and no one gets hurt.

Some things that were deal-breakers were about kids. Nino didn’t want anymore.  Good news, I can’t have them so that wasn’t a big deal for me. Cheating on each other/swinging completely a deal -breaker for both of us so that was cool.  Where would we live IF we lived together….needed to be near his daughters, that worked for me (loved those girls from the moment I met them!)…..marriage was not an option either of us wanted to take on again (funny how 8 years passes and here we are married) everything that you can think of that could potentially split a couple up….we laid it on the line over a beer and some wings and saw that there wasn’t any deal-breakers we couldn’t overcome.

I have to tell you, as our relationship continued to develop and things continued to move forward we still didn’t say we were “in” a relationship.  With no titles spoken we were just hanging out, seeing where things went and knew that if we to wanted to leave we just needed to talk to one another.

We gave up all the dating pretenses of what titles need to be there, the happily ever after story, the “it has to look a certain way” and just began to enjoy each others company and craziness.  It was really no different when we decided to move in together.  We just adjusted to seeing each other everyday instead of the weekend relationship we were having.

What I can tell you from what I have learned is that to have a successful relationship I had to be myself, be totally in communication even when I wanted to with-hold my thoughts, be honest to myself and to him AND NEVER STOP CREATING. Everyday is a creation, even to this day. In our relationship, in our careers, in everything! (we do make jokes about each other to one another ALL THE TIME, the difference is we do not take them personally)

We create fun, play, adventures, dinners and when we stop doing that, it gets boring and we start to drift until one of us says “hey! This sucks right now! Let’s have fun again!” and then we get back to being full partners, lovers, best friends and the world is balanced again.

Relationships are a two-way street and the opportunity is to find the person for you that is willing to and up for the challenge of having an adventure filled juicy life AND shares it all in communication with you so the two of you can work anything out.

You have to be willing to stand up for what you want AND to not make others wrong for not wanting what you want. There is a fine line to having it all.  My recommendation is to not get caught up thinking you “know” what you want either….if I had stayed hooked in my first thoughts about Nino, I never would have met him for that martini and we wouldn’t be where we are now!

If you are with someone now and that person you are with is not open to talking, really doesn’t want what you want, you have a choice to either stay with them and be happy as is or to set them free and in a way that honors them and you.  If they are the man or woman of your dreams, continue to create. I highly recommend the “deal-breaker” conversation, it saves a lot of time and heartache!

I want people to know that what Nino and I have is not something special or different from anyone else.  There is just willingness on both sides to create, listen and honor one another everyday.

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Relationship Coaching is available through the Live OUT LOUD Movement. If you are in a relationship OR want to be in a relationship and looking to create a plan/structure to have a successful, happy, loving, juicy relationship, let’s talk!