Do you ever just want to quit? Quit your job? Quit your relationship? Quit whatever it is that at one time you were lit up about and then it got “hard” and you couldn’t see how to make it work?
If you have never had this thought….you may not be human…
In relationships I have wanted to quit. Give it all up and run away. Call it a day and be by myself again too. I have, in my thoughts, actually seen me putting on running shoes and lacing them up like if I get the lace all the way done up, that means for sure I have to go!
I have learned that it really is normal to have these kinds of thoughts. It is what you do with that thought that will either take you out of whatever it is or that will get you so determined that nothing will stand in your way.
To become determined, often times we require a support system. Someone or something that will not allow us to sell out on ourselves. Whether that be from a friend, family member, stranger or an app, etc. Something or someone that holds you bigger than you know yourself to be.
When I have been at my lowest points and quit or gotten ready to quit, I could pretty much look around and see that I was either all by myself with my thoughts or the people I had in my life at the time were the people who thrived off others failures and were happy to see me crash and burn.
Either way, we always need to be aware of our environment, of what we surround with or who. If you are not where you want to be in life and you are ready to quit, look around. What does your current environment look like? Do you need to make adjustments to who you hang out with? Do you need to discover what it is you stand for so that it is clear to you? Are you on track to meet the goals you wanted and then things got tough?
Look at the BIG picture before you throw yourself out of the game of the life you are creating.
When I have stood back and looked at my life as a whole, with a coach, I have always been able to discover what I couldn’t see before, make the adjustments and keep going. For instance with changing careers, I loved the people I worked for but I was not enjoying the job.
Why? Because I love to dance, move and motivate people. It is who I am.
What type of job was I doing?
I sat at a desk and on a computer for 8 hours a day.
Can you see the disconnect?
I was miserable. I really struggled with leaving what I was doing because although I was miserable, I loved the people I worked for and I felt that I would be letting them down. The truth is, they knew I wasn’t happy and while they loved me too, it just wasn’t a fit for what they were up to or what I was up to. When I got really honest with myself AND with them, it was just natural for me to leave and I ensured that they had someone in place to take over and that they were trained before I left.
Taking the time for me to actually see what lights me up and what I was committed to gave me the freedom to come clean to my employers in such a way that we all got what we needed. I didn’t just quit (and I had just quit jobs before and that never really goes well) I got honest with myself, my environment and the people in it.
It takes courage to stay in the game and be in communication where you need to however, if you are willing, the rewards of priceless!
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