Personal Stories

Kindness is Contagious!

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In a world of busy, it is important to remember whether you are in person OR on-line you have a choice in EVERY moment to show love and kindness.

So many times I see negativity being spread on social media and just the other day, I was at the gas station and witnessed a guy yelling at a woman because in his opinion, she was taking too long at the pump.  Whenever I see this kind of behavior whether on-line or in person, I have to wonder how much energy all that negativity just sucked out of the person dishing it out and how much energy was taken away from the person who it got delivered on.

I know first-hand when I am being kind to someone in either situation, by the end I am lit up and so is the person I supported or spoke kindly to.  It is like a little energy boost without doing a physical work out. It just feels great!

I assert that when we/you/I dump negativity on someone quite the opposite occurs and a loss of energy happens. This leaves us feeling drained, unhappy and many times ready to give up.

That being said, if you want to energize your day, spend the day doing kind deeds or saying kind things to others and see how your energy level boosts!

An attitude of gratitude and sprinkling kindness everywhere you go brings on Good Karma, abundance of energy and an awesome life!

Don’t just take my word for it….GET OUT THERE AND SPRINKLE KINDNESS EVERYWHERE! 🙂

Much love,

 

Tammy

 

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Health & Well Being, Personal Stories

I Am Under Construction…It Is A GREAT Thing!

I have discovered that everything in life, jobs, relationships, being alive, is always evolving and if I stay “static” or not moving in one area then everything eventually seems like it gets “stuck”. It becomes a force that is very hard to move forward.

The beginning of 2018 brought upon many incidents/accidents that have had me begin to re-evaluate much of what I have been working on.  Not like a problem, only that knowing when many challenges show up, sometimes it is like the universe’s way of saying “HELLO TAMMY!! Are you listening?”

The most prominent that started my year were 2 car accidents less than 2 month’s apart. Both times I was rear-ended and ended up with whiplash and concussions. The second time I was hit, my car that I just purchased less than 6 month’s prior to the accidents, it didn’t make it.

Being that I work primarily in the fitness industry this was very hard physically to see some of the limitations I was having after both accidents.  I had headaches regularly, my body was very sore constantly.  I would easily forget things I had just done or said in the first few weeks following these accidents. It was terribly frustrating at the time.

Thankfully, I know my body well and went directly to my chiropractor and medical doctor right after the accidents. I immediately got the support I needed and have bounced back extremely quickly so I can keep working doing what I love.

That being said, the accidents also opened something up for me. I realized I really had no back up plan if something were to happen that I didn’t “bounce back” again if something else were to happen. The question to myself was “If I am not able to dance anymore, then what?”

I realized this year that my passion is and always will be to support others in discovering what lights them up. Supporting others in finding the relationships they are looking for. Supporting people of all abilities to move and find their groove! Supporting others in making their dreams reality, whether it be fitness goals, relationships, financial, building businesses, creating extraordinary events, and so much more.

The company I have built, the Live OUT LOUD Movement, is so much more than just a fitness program based primarily in Zumba Fitness.

The Live OUT LOUD Movement is a LIFE MOVEMENT.

A place to take all that seems like heavy weights on our shoulders and discover the silver lining within them all to produce extraordinary results in the face of no agreement in life.

I truly believe that everything happens in our lives for a reason. Even all the “bad stuff” that I wish never happened. I see it as it had to happen to show me something that I couldn’t see was available before. In the moment, it never “feels” that way, however the true gift of this MOVEMENT is the opportunity to look more in-depth at what is happening and discover what I/we can’t see right away.  Discovering the knowledge that is hidden deep within what ails us to creating a strong and vibrant life that impacts ourselves and others by what is discovered!

I am in the process of rebuilding new aspects to the Live OUT LOUD Movement and new offerings over the next few months to really dive deep into what is possible through this company to help people in a unique way.

I hope you stick around to see what is next and how it all plays out. I will always continue to dance for as long as my body will let me, you can bet money on that and now is the time for me to take what I have built thus far and expand it far beyond where it is today!

EXCITING TIMES!

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Health & Well Being, Personal Stories

The Importance of Self Love…

I have been thinking a lot lately about how I take care of myself and questioning whether or not I really take the time to check in within myself and ask “how am I doing?”

Many of us go about our day ensuring that everyone around us has what “they” need and often times forget to check in and make sure we are taken care of.

Can anyone relate?

Only recently did I notice how not checking in with myself left me with this feeling of being like a hamster on a wheel running like mad to get things done and actually not getting anywhere.  Hamsters actually enjoy this activity, however, I have discovered for sure that I am NOT a hamster and that IS good news!

Here is what I discovered when I took the time to really look….what I needed was personal time to write.

I bet you thought I was going to say dance…Actually that would be second but WRITING…writing comes FIRST!

Writing is something that has always given me great pleasure.

For me, it is not something that I need to share with anyone and that being said, sometimes I choose to share my writing….but for the purpose of taking care of me, I just need time to write at least once a day.

Sometimes I know what I want to write about and sometimes it becomes what I refer to as a “mind dump”….just let it all out and then I can breathe again.

It is important to me that others understand that as successful as you may think I am, I literally am no different from anyone else. I forget to take care of myself sometimes.  I have thoughts that do not empower me all the time. Sometimes I really do not want to work out.

What I know though is that when I honor myself by taking time to write, bring back the positive thoughts and work out whether I “want to” or not, I always always always feel better and am able to support those around that I  love to the fullest!

It is important to discover at least one thing that you can do to take care of your SELF that will light you up and light your soul on fire!  Whatever it is for you, love it, give yourself the time to do it NO MATTER HOW BUSY YOU THINK YOU ARE and know that YOU are the most important person in your life.

Without YOU, there is NO amazing life!

YOU COME FIRST and all else FALLS INTO PLACE!

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Aging Is A Gift….

I love aging!

What?!!! Yep! I said it! I do not worry or feel bad about it at all….  Here is why…

With age comes little wrinkles around the eyes that tell a story of one’s life.

Aging brings on wisdom that in itself is beautiful as well.

There is nothing to fear as we age….it is all a part of life and without it…we cease to exist.

So embrace the wrinkles and love who you are every minute of everyday! Aging is a gift that many do not get the opportunity to do.

Live Life. Laugh Lots. Make Memories.

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Failing is Part of Life….Your Reaction is Yours…

Recently I put myself out there for something that I could have sworn would be a perfect fit for who I am and what I am up to. I told myself that I wasn’t attached at all to how it turned out and if it was meant to be, it would work out. What really happened was when it didn’t work out, I realized how attached I really was and how bummed out I was that it didn’t work out.

It took me some time and reflection to see that it was okay that it didn’t work out and there were other opportunities that will present themselves and most importantly, I am okay and the decision that was made was not personal to who I am, rather it was the perfect decision for the people who presented the opportunity.

The point is, being sad or discouraged can be a perfectly normal reaction to what’s going on. Staying sad or discouraged is really up to each of us. I choose not to stay in that place for any longer than a day…or so…or less if I can wrap my head back into the game. I know that I am worth it and will have many opportunities show up in life and it is up to me to seek them out, discover and go for it, no matter what.

Failing is just part of the game of life. Stay real my friends!

 

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Decade Check-Ins for Women…

Yes, I said it and I think you all know what I am talking about….the decade check in….for women this is unbelievably a part of life…I seriously can’t be the only one? Or am I?

When you are born you know no better about what you look like or who men or women are. That takes time to develop….as many things do with each decade I have learned.

When I was 10, I recall realizing that I no longer wan to play with Barbie’s but was now becoming more and more fascinated with NKOTB (If you knew that was New Kids On The Block before I just had to write it here….well you had a cool childhood!). At 10, I experienced one of my first deaths in life, my Grandma Gunn whom I adored.   This was a pivotal moment in life of witnessing how my Mom stepped in to care for my Grandpa. Every night (or every second night) my Mom would walk down a plate of dinner to my Grandpa. I know she did so much more for him but that memory sticks out clear as day.  I began to develop as a women, the knowing to take care of others. Thanks Mom!

As my twenties rolled in like a big storm cloud and I was out there “being” who I thought I needed to be as a married women (At 19, I really think it should illegal to get married….I am thinking till your 30 is actually a superb plan but I don’t condemn anyone who thinks otherwise….I just don’t agree….hahaha) Life took a sudden turn from being super fit and single to married, confused, trying to find myself, heavy and an avid smoker  to divorced at 25. Yep, my 20’s screeched in like a Formula 1 car taking the sharpest turn. I wasn’t sure I would get to do my 3rd Decade Check-in due to my journey of a thousand roads 20’s…but here I am…2 decades later and the war wounds have held up nicely!

When I got to my thirties, the view of this decade had me doing strange check-ins with myself physically, mentally and emotionally. My body began to change. It’s like one day you’re 29 and then POOF….the #30 buzzer gets pushed and a woman’s body goes into an exploration of self-confidence, humor over the things that jiggle that never did before(I cannot be the only one who experienced their first jiggly underarm when doing a chin up. ) I began to love long sleeves for a while till I got that under control again!  My thirties were true golden years. I grew into loving myself and knowing what I will stand for, to still fighting at times to know if I am headed in the right direction, to ROCKIN this 30’s party like it was 1999!

Life was seriously AMAZING in my 30’s. Best DECADE to date!

Then May 2 of this year happened….the marker of a new decade and not just ANY decade…but my 40’s. Honestly, before this one, all other decade self check-ins were never as intense as this year has been.  Having had my 39th year be exciting, challenging, tragic, expanding, re-invention and so much more….it was so weird to begin the thought process that I am now 40.  I always have said “you are only as old as you think you are!” suddenly I had to check in to ask myself “how old do YOU think you are??” Suddenly, I had aches where I had never experienced pain before…I began to examine the wrinkles in my face, every crevice of my body…..then I began the check in to my thoughts, my business, my relationships (personal & friendships…) my entire life seemed to have really come into the spotlight for a FULL ON evaluation and I was being graded like I went to MIT, Standford and Harvard all combined!

I was never this hard on me before.

It has been surprising to me to see how far I have come and then to see how far I have to go.  When I really began to examine things I could see my laugh wrinkles as “Happy Bench Markers” of years well-lived.  The aches began to feel like a good pain of years spent dancing the nights away and loving every minute of it.  I began to embrace all things in which I had been resisting and owning them like medals of honour for how far I have come and always remembering how far I have to go yet.

I know I am only a month into my 40’s but slowly and with time I feel like this life is only going to get better with time and there will be some spills of this fine wine along the way, however, I feel that the opportunity to age well staying positive, creating new challenges and pushing past boundaries will happen in this decade. There is a wisdom in this decade. One that challenges the mind and shapes the future.

I cannot say what my 5th check-in will bring.  It may be like the 4th or it may be a piece of cake (or I will just want cake…not sure yet….we shall see….if I am lucky) All I know right now is that I do not feel like I am 40 (more like 27 and holding) and I hope that it will always be like this. Wisdom, laugh wrinkles, in shape, having fun, loved & loving all that surrounds me.

Let’s raise a glass to all the spectacular women embracing their 40’s in 2017 and those who are on your way to your next decade check-in no matter what the year!

Love you ladies,

Tammy

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Taking Care of YOU, Takes Care of Others!

Often times, many of us will jump to help or support another with what they need. Giving up our time freely to be able to support someone with what they need is very common.

I do it myself all the time too!

What I began to realize though was when I would jump to support others all the time, I stopped taking care of my own needs such as physical activity, eating healthy and doing the things that I love to do like writing (hence why you haven’t seen a blog post from me in a while), going for walks and chilling with friends.

My life had become about serving others and I stopped serving myself. There needs to be a balance between the two so that you/I can best support others by taking care of our selves first.

Here is what I mean, when I step back and really look at all the times I was having fun with my friends, eating healthy, writing regularly I can see a direct correlation to how I was able to better serve others because meeting my basic needs, had me be more clear and content with giving of myself to others.  When I didn’t take care of myself first then I would feel burnt out and struggling and sometimes even upset that I felt I “had” to support someone, rather than enjoying getting to do so.

If you look for yourself, do you ever feel like you put others before you? Notice how your mind and body react when you are not taking care of you too.  Do you feel anxious? Angry? Emotional? Upset? Unsettled?

If any of these emotions are presenting themselves, you may need to do a self-evaluation of what you have been up to and take some time out of your schedule just for you.

Don’t worry what others will think if you do…YOU ARE WORTH TAKING TIME FOR TOO!

The National Institute Of Wellness has these suggestions for you!

Some tips for self-care include:

  • Live Healthy, eat healthy foods, get enough sleep, exercise regularly, and avoid drugs and alcohol. Manage stress and go for regular medical check-ups.
  • Practice good hygiene. Good hygiene is important for social, medical, and psychological reasons in that it not only reduces the risk of illness, but it also improves the way others view you and how you view yourself.
  • See friends to build your sense of belonging. Consider joining a support group to make new friends.
  • Try to do something you enjoy every day. That might mean dancing, watching a favorite TV show, working in the garden, painting or reading.
  • Find ways to relax, like meditation, yoga, getting a massage, taking a bath or walking in the woods.

Whatever it is you choose to do, have it HONOR YOU!  This will have you better serving yourself AND your community!Taking-care-of-yourself-quote_daily-inspiration-2