Health & Well Being, Personal Stories

Self-care Comes FIRST

Seriously, this gets missed A LOT by MANY people!

Speaking from my own experience, I have a tendency to put everyone in my life’s needs before my own & by the end of the day, I am spent with no energy to give back to myself.

Recently, I have been switching it up.

Checking in with myself each MORNING & ensuring what I need from myself for the day, I get.

What this has shown me is that I am still able to be there & support others like I always did (if not even better now) & all my own personal needs are taken care of & I do not waiver from ensuring they are in a timely manner everyday!

So do what you need to do to take care of yourself FIRST & then watch how much easier it is to be there for others!

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Health & Well Being, Personal Stories

The Importance of Self Love…

I have been thinking a lot lately about how I take care of myself and questioning whether or not I really take the time to check in within myself and ask “how am I doing?”

Many of us go about our day ensuring that everyone around us has what “they” need and often times forget to check in and make sure we are taken care of.

Can anyone relate?

Only recently did I notice how not checking in with myself left me with this feeling of being like a hamster on a wheel running like mad to get things done and actually not getting anywhere.  Hamsters actually enjoy this activity, however, I have discovered for sure that I am NOT a hamster and that IS good news!

Here is what I discovered when I took the time to really look….what I needed was personal time to write.

I bet you thought I was going to say dance…Actually that would be second but WRITING…writing comes FIRST!

Writing is something that has always given me great pleasure.

For me, it is not something that I need to share with anyone and that being said, sometimes I choose to share my writing….but for the purpose of taking care of me, I just need time to write at least once a day.

Sometimes I know what I want to write about and sometimes it becomes what I refer to as a “mind dump”….just let it all out and then I can breathe again.

It is important to me that others understand that as successful as you may think I am, I literally am no different from anyone else. I forget to take care of myself sometimes.  I have thoughts that do not empower me all the time. Sometimes I really do not want to work out.

What I know though is that when I honor myself by taking time to write, bring back the positive thoughts and work out whether I “want to” or not, I always always always feel better and am able to support those around that I  love to the fullest!

It is important to discover at least one thing that you can do to take care of your SELF that will light you up and light your soul on fire!  Whatever it is for you, love it, give yourself the time to do it NO MATTER HOW BUSY YOU THINK YOU ARE and know that YOU are the most important person in your life.

Without YOU, there is NO amazing life!

YOU COME FIRST and all else FALLS INTO PLACE!

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Health & Well Being

Being a Parent and Provider….Full-Time + Hours!

Being a parent is never an “easy” job.  With the responsibility to raise your child to be a respectful young person and one day mature adult, it is a job that is one of itself. However, for most people, it is not the only job you hold.

Today’s reality is that we see more often than not, both parents or single parents in the workplace..…you have to make a living.  That IS the choice you have.   Having to maintain a full-time career and be a full-time parent which often includes a multiple of extra curricular activities and rides needed to and from a friend’s home or to school, where do you fit time in for yourself?

Yes, you had children. Yes, you need to take care of them.  Yes, in most cases, you need to work.  AND YES, you need to take time out for yourself. If you are not making time to replenish and refill your own spirit, eventually you get lost in all the activities of your child and you lose who you are.

I am often approached by women in their mid 30’s to mid 40’s who say they have been so busy making sure the bills were paid and their child had everything they needed that they had stopped taking care of their own health and  were beginning to fear what life will be like after their children leave home.  Not fear from being alone but more fear of who they actually are and what they will do with themselves when all that time became theirs again.

As a parent, you must make time for yourself. Even if it 60 minutes 1-2 times a week to start.  60 minutes to do something that you love or that lights you up can make all the difference in how you are able to support others in the long-term.  Take baby steps to regaining time for yourself.  No elephant ever got ate in one bite! (A phrase told to me by a wise parent…)  Get to know what you love to do….ride a bike, read a book, take a class, go see a movie, knit! It doesn’t matter what it is as long as it inspires YOU!

Parents I see who have taken this on, not only smile more and seem more grounded in who they are…also, have children who support them and see what is possible for themselves as youth to always be who they are first and everything else will fall into place.

Be YOU…..it’s all your children ever want you to be!

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