The struggle is real. At least it occurs that way for me in the moment it is happening.
Do you ever compare yourself to others success….like “why does it always work out for them and not me?”
Whether it be in relationships, career, fitness, winning the lottery….all of it. There are times when the comparison game is really real and it takes me down a dark tunnel or “I am not good enough”.
As soon as I begin to play the comparison game, I begin to struggle to even be happy for another person succeeding in whatever area it is. I begin to wonder why it doesn’t work out for me and how long will I stay in this broken condition until something awesome like what happened to Bob (or whatever their name was) will happen to me.
ME ME ME ME ME! Ever been there?
I have learned it has very little to do with me and it never did. Yes, all that stressing and comparing is really useless and here is why…. are you ready for it….
NOT ONE of us is made EXACTLY the same…..even identical twins are not EXACTLY identical. They may look-alike but if you look really close you will notice subtle differences and they make different decisions and choices just like everybody else.
The good news really is that not one of us is exactly the same and therefore comparing ourselves to others is really a crazy practice that our thoughts enjoy doing to us!
The moment that I begin to go down the road of comparing where I am at or my success to another person, I make myself stop and look at all the things I have to be grateful for in my life. It takes practice.
The even crazier thing is sometimes those who we compare ourselves to are comparing themselves TO US! As a human this is really a natural phenomenon that we have to train our brain to not get wrapped up in comparing ourselves to others.
I am better, you are better than me, she is better than him, he is better than that guy….blah blah blah blah blah. At the end of the day that person who “looks” super successful may be the one who goes home and wishes for a different life and is struggling everyday. Then you see the person living in a tiny apartment working a job YOU think is terrible and they are so happy and are travelling the world meeting new people….. We really just don’t know and if we only look at the surface of people we never really know who a person is.
My husband is very successful at what he does and he loves what he does. I cannot even for a moment compare myself to him because our fields of work are very different and there are times when my mind says “God, I wish I was as happy as him….” the crazy part is….I AM! It just doesn’t look the same way as him.
I find our brains and thought patterns to be extremely fascinating and mainly because I have been watching my own and others around me for so many years. The struggle that I create for myself in the moment IS real because I allow my thoughts to say it is and then that is when I get stuck in my life and feel like nothing is happening.
Can anyone relate?
Think about who you compare yourself to and give yourself from freedom today to remind yourself that YOU ARE NOT THEM. You are unique in your own way and display talents only you possess. You are individual and that is pretty awesome to discover! Take a moment to make a list of your talents and all that you have to be grateful for in your life. Put aside all worry and doubt. LIVE in THIS moment.
Are you ready to talk with someone about what you are dealing with? Are you committed to having 2016 be your best year yet and have a specific goal you want to go to work on and need someone to hold you accountable? Are you ready to live YOUR life? Email me below and let’s talk: