Health & Well Being, Personal Stories

What Is Your View of You?

Recently I did an assignment where I was asked to ask 5 people I know well and 5 people I don’t know so well what they think my most valuable skills, abilities and unique traits are.

When I saw this exercise, I had a moment of being worried to ask. Do I really want to know what others think of me?  Will I like or not like their answers? How quick will they respond or do they have to think about it?

All this personal judging and assessing of myself reared its ugly head and I began to go down a bit of a tunnel.  Before I took the full turn into the tunnel of my brain where there is no coming back, I quickly typed up the text and sent it out to 10 people and exhaled as the question that was consuming my thoughts fired its way through cyberspace into the hands of 10 unknowing individuals.

Within minutes my phone began to ‘ding’ with incoming messages.  As I opened the texts I was flooded with emotions.  My eyes could not believe what I was reading. ‘optimistic, energetic, incredible listener, compassionate, exceptional leader, integral, extreme social intelligence, genuine as fuck, willingness to learn & unlearn to support communities, ability to always find the silver lining, writer, determination & stand, approachable’ & the list went on….

All the things I “wished” I could be were now before me in the eyes of others as to who I am…..I suddenly had nowhere to get to.  I could now see I AM these things I always “wished” I could be.

The text also had a few ask… “Are you applying for a job? I know a company that would love to have you!” Which made me giggle a little with flattery.  It also opened a communication of others asking this question back to me about them.  It became extremely empowering for everyone!

I see now that I have been relating to myself as small, not able to make a BIG difference…only a little blip on a screen and I had so much more work to do to be the person I always wanted to be.

But now, Here I am.

I share this as I do not feel that I am alone in my judgement or assessment of ones Self.  I do believe that the hardest person on our Self is typically our own Self! I was blinded by my own view and until asking others, unclear that there was any other view out there other than the small one I had created for me.

Doing this assignment awakened me to what I have actually been creating in the world and has given me an opportunity to move forward with all my goals knowing that I am who I always hoped I could be for myself and others.

I personally do not want to live my life alone. If I am to succeed, I want others to come with and know that I am here for them and we can make this world a better place TOGETHER.  The truth is I actually get that this dream of mine is completely possible and I have an incredible group of people around me that we are all cheering each other on to win.

I have pivoted on one foot out of the tunnel and back into the light to breathe new air into my lungs. Now it is time to take on life with rejuvenated passion and purpose knowing that I am bigger than my own thoughts.

If you are feeling stuck in a negative thought about yourself, I invite you to reach out to your community and be brave to ask this question. I truly believe you will learn a lot about who you REALLY are beyond the thoughts you THINK you are.


Personal Stories

Kindness is Contagious!


In a world of busy, it is important to remember whether you are in person OR on-line you have a choice in EVERY moment to show love and kindness.

So many times I see negativity being spread on social media and just the other day, I was at the gas station and witnessed a guy yelling at a woman because in his opinion, she was taking too long at the pump.  Whenever I see this kind of behavior whether on-line or in person, I have to wonder how much energy all that negativity just sucked out of the person dishing it out and how much energy was taken away from the person who it got delivered on.

I know first-hand when I am being kind to someone in either situation, by the end I am lit up and so is the person I supported or spoke kindly to.  It is like a little energy boost without doing a physical work out. It just feels great!

I assert that when we/you/I dump negativity on someone quite the opposite occurs and a loss of energy happens. This leaves us feeling drained, unhappy and many times ready to give up.

That being said, if you want to energize your day, spend the day doing kind deeds or saying kind things to others and see how your energy level boosts!

An attitude of gratitude and sprinkling kindness everywhere you go brings on Good Karma, abundance of energy and an awesome life!


Much love,




Health & Well Being

Smiles Can Turn Your Day Around

In this day and age, I have discovered fewer people look up at each other when walking by.  Many are immersed in their cell phones and totally oblivious to what is happening around them.

Recently, I began ensuring that when I am out walking, I have no phone in hand and my head is up and I am making EYE CONTACT with anyone who looks my way.


I have discovered that when making eye contact AND flashing a smile….in most cases even a “hello!”, “Good morning/afternoon!” seems to alter not only my view of the day but it rearranges the molecules of the person I interact with.  Someone who may look completely down in the dumps can easily shift to a smile and exhibit a sparkle in their eye!

What I believe is that we never know what is going on for another human being. It may be the worst day of their life. It may have been a mediocre start, but as soon as I bring a SMILE or a FRIENDLY GESTURE into the interaction, they light up and so do I.

My request for the remainder of the week is for everyone to put our phones down, raise our eyes to meet others and make it a GREAT WEEK for not only YOU but those whom you interact with!

You never know how that smile of yours can impact others!

Go out and see how powerful you truly are!


Benefits of Movement, Health & Well Being, Personal Stories

Cynthia’s Journey Through Fitness…..INSPIRING!


Recently I was speaking with one of my regular clients Cynthia who has been coming to my Zumba fitness classes for just over a year.  She was sharing with me how happy she is that she made the change in her life and found a fitness that she truly loves to do each week.

I said to her, “I know you have lost some weight, it would be so great if you had some before and after pictures so we could see the difference”.

She said “I do! Here!”


My jaw nearly hit the floor!

As an instructor, I can see changes but I had no idea how much her whole body had shifted.  She shared with me that with working out typically 3 times a week in my classes it also had her naturally making better food choices and within the year the weight has naturally just melted off.  She has not used any other form to lose any of the weight other than zumba classes, eating healthy and dancing her way through life! 🙂

Cynthia is a bright light in class and you can see by the way she laugh’s and plays and dances through class that her confidence and love for music and herself shines so bright!

The classes I teach are not just solely about losing weight…and while that tends to be a great “side-effect”, they are also about building self-confidence, releasing stress and finding an outlet to support you in living the life you deserve!

Cynthia is a great example of taking on all of the elements of the Live OUT LOUD Movement classes and I could not be prouder of her accomplishments so far!

Just think, this could be you! Your story….YOUR JOURNEY!


If you are interested in our fitness classes, life coaching, nutrition counselling, please contact me today by filling in the contact form below.

Personal Stories

The Struggle of Comparison is Real in Our Minds

The struggle is real. At least it occurs that way for me in the moment it is happening.

Do you ever compare yourself to others success….like “why does it always work out for them and not me?”

Whether it be in relationships, career, fitness, winning the lottery….all of it. There are times when the comparison game is really real and it takes me down a dark tunnel or “I am not good enough”.

As soon as I begin to play the comparison game, I begin to struggle to even be happy for another person succeeding in whatever area it is.  I begin to wonder why it doesn’t work out for me and how long will I stay in this broken condition until something awesome like what happened to Bob (or whatever their name was) will happen to me.

ME ME ME ME ME!  Ever been there?

I have learned it has very little to do with me and it never did.  Yes, all that stressing and comparing is really useless and here is why…. are you ready for it….

NOT ONE of us is made EXACTLY the same…..even identical twins are not EXACTLY identical.  They may look-alike but if you look really close you will notice subtle differences and they make different decisions and choices just like everybody else.

The good news really is that not one of us is exactly the same and therefore comparing ourselves to others is really a crazy practice that our thoughts enjoy doing to us!

The moment that I begin to go down the road of comparing where I am at or my success to another person, I make myself stop and look at all the things I have to be grateful for in my life.  It takes practice.

The even crazier thing is sometimes those who we compare ourselves to are comparing themselves TO US!  As a human this is really a natural phenomenon that we have to train our brain to not get wrapped up in comparing ourselves to others.

I am better, you are better than me, she is better than him, he is better than that guy….blah blah blah blah blah.  At the end of the day that person who “looks” super successful may be the one who goes home and wishes for a different life and is struggling everyday.  Then you see the person living in a tiny apartment working a job YOU think is terrible and they are so happy and are travelling the world meeting new people….. We really just don’t know and if we only look at the surface of people we never really know who a person is.

My husband is very successful at what he does and he loves what he does.  I cannot even for a moment compare myself to him because our fields of work are very different and there are times when my mind says “God, I wish I was as happy as him….” the crazy part is….I AM! It just doesn’t look the same way as him.

I find our brains and thought patterns to be extremely fascinating and mainly because I have been watching my own and others around me for so many years.  The struggle that I create for myself in the moment IS real because I allow my thoughts to say it is and then that is when I get stuck in my life and feel like nothing is happening.

Can anyone relate?

Think about who you compare yourself to and give yourself from freedom today to remind yourself that YOU ARE NOT THEM.  You are unique in your own way and display talents only you possess.  You are individual and that is pretty awesome to discover!  Take a moment to make a list of your talents and all that you have to be grateful for in your life.  Put aside all worry and doubt. LIVE in THIS moment.

Are you ready to talk with someone about what you are dealing with?  Are you committed to having 2016 be your best year yet and have a specific goal you want to go to work on and need someone to hold you accountable?  Are you ready to live YOUR life?  Email me below and let’s talk:


Benefits of Movement, Personal Stories

The Secrets to Living….Shhhhhh…..TELL EVERYONE!

Here it is….the end of the year is upon us.  For some you, you are jumping with joy to start a new year because this one has been all kinds of terrible from your view. For others you are jumping with joy to start a new year because this one was so awesome, you are anticipating your “best year yet!” For another group of people, you are actually BORN today and how cool is that, the WHOLE WORLD is celebrating! I would make it mean they were all so thrilled that I came into the world! HAHAHA!

Whatever your take on New Years and why you celebrate/or don’t it’s all in the world of completion.

Even if you have had what you would consider your worst year ever, look around and see who is there with you.  Do you have people who care about you? Do you have a roof over your head? Do you have food in your belly? Did you laugh at least a couple of times this year? Do you still have all your fingers and toes? In spite of all that happened, did you learn something about yourself you never knew? resilience perhaps?  Really look people…it is all perspective.

There is something to always looking for the silver lining and building upon what has happened in your life.  That is what living IS!

The secret to what living really IS……want to know it? Here it is….

A set of lessons/situations that occur everyday that lead you to your next set of actions or in some cases….in-actions.

That’s it! There you have it! The answer.

Now the challenge is to remember that answer when the next set of “life lessons” stare you down in what appears to be an old-fashioned shoot-out.  It is not easy but it is worth it.

I have had my years of just being thankful that it was finally over.  I even had one year where I was with friends celebrating at  bar and just before the clock rolled over an old friend came over to me and called me….well let’s just say it wasn’t pleasant and we didn’t make plans for dinner anytime soon.

Right up to the last second of the year, things can either look rough OR you can have it be something or someone you learn from and grow stronger and more in tune with who you really are.

If you are a resolution maker, make it AND put your butt on the line to keep it! It is the only way it actually works! 🙂

Don’t let another year go by and you feel lost, hopeless or your goals were not met.  The only way you will feel like this at the end of 2016 is if you did not take your life as lessons and take the actions needed to produce the results you were committed to.

That being said, if you want to create a game plan in the area of relationships, fitness(DANCE your way through 2016!!!), wellness/nutrition, LIFE and you see that a Life and Wellness architect (That’s me!) could support you in having 2016 be the year you blow the door’s off on having an EXTRAORDINARY year to cultivate years to come….Email me below and let’s set up a free consultation.

I truly love you all and am looking forward to all the lessons and life that 2016 may bring! AND if you are reading this and it’s your birthday, HAPPY BIRTHDAY YOU!!!


Benefits of Movement

There is No Winning in Playing a Victim in Relationships…

The best revenge in any relationship is to take on your life and live it to the fullest.

Not that I have ever been out for revenge and maybe that is not the word to use however, if you end a relationship or someone ends your relationship and you sit and wallow in it , all you are doing is cementing for them and for others as to why your relationship was not good and that you were the source of the end of it.

I had a relationship once that my partner ended and I had been going along thinking everything was going great.  It was a shocker….well, for me anyway….

I couldn’t understand why he wanted to end it and my reaction to the whole situation was to be a victim.  How being a victim showed up was having a lot of tears, telling my sob story to anyone who would listen, calling my ex trying to get an answer I could live with, being whiny…..oh it was bad…

Have you ever done this?  Are you doing it now?

It’s not that I intentionally said “I am going to play the victim of this!” It’s that my thoughts took over and I became panicked, needy and did not know my own self worth anymore.  I had been in this relationship long enough that I had become that person that did whatever the other person wanted and had forgotten what any of my own interests were…. I no longer knew who I was without this person.

I got lost.

When you lose yourself in your partner it can be very difficult to see your own future without them.  I am very thankful that this person had the courage to end it with me.  It was rough in the beginning and once I got past playing the victim of this “tragic love story”, I could totally see how if they wanted to be with someone exactly like them, well then being alone really WAS a better choice.

I was not them.  I just couldn’t see it at the time.

It’s not bad or wrong to play the victim, you just gotta learn how to snap out of it and get on with your life. I learned that life didn’t just stop happening while I was being whiny and in my head…nope, it kept going on and the more of a victim I was being about it all….the fewer people were around.

When a relationship ends and you don’t move on by staying stuck in the past, nobody wants to hear it after a while.  Friends and family have sympathy for you for only so long and then, while they may still be there for you, they want the friend or family member that they knew back!

Seriously, I invite you to really look if this is happening for you and has been for a while, take an inventory of what ALL your relationships are beginning to look like and get present to where you are at. It may shock you to see.

Once I began to discover again the things I love to do, the people I love to hang out with, the job I loved to do, all of it…..I became more and more attractive to myself and that really IS the only person you need to be happy with all the time! No matter what relationship you are in….remember, YOU will ALWAYS be there!

My ex and I are now friends (when I could see where I was wrong and acknowledge it to him, there was opportunity for friendship and respect) and I am forever grateful that we had our time together and that I got to learn about myself in relationships.  I am now my own person, individual and in love with another individual and that is one of the great things that has our relationship work!

The message here is BE YOU in all your relationships. If you feel you have to change yourself to be in the relationship, they didn’t love YOU in the first place and/or YOU don’t love YOU yet to be in a healthy happy relationship.  Do the work on YOU first to love yourself.  YOU ARE WORTH IT!

2016 is a year of growth and understanding of who you are in relationships. If you are ready to discover the perfect relationship for you and get clear on what you want and need in a relationship, please contact me to set up a consultation:


I am a little self-expressed in life…..hehehehehehe



Health & Well Being

What is a Fitness & Wellness Architect?

That’s me!

I am someone who works with you to design the structure that will support you in creating a fitness, relationship and health program that you are IN LOVE WITH!

It all starts with a foundation. Some place to work from. By getting to learn what’s actually happening in your life and so about where you are at we can then begin to work together to see where you want to be and design along the way all the “support beams” will need to go….

These techniques can be used to support you in creating the relationships of your dreams, the career you really want, whatever it may be.

When you can see what it is that YOU really want to take on then you are working from what you are committed to and not what someone else is committed to.  Working from what it is that you are committed to is what will have you see results. Often times in life we go by what we “think” others want us to do or be and then we spend our days struggling to fit someone else’s mold.  It never works out well.

In my calls with you we work through a system to discover what is it that you really want out of life and then begin to work on building the structure to support that.  When you can see it….that’s when the planning becomes fun and adventure-filled!

Are you ready to build your life? Put in the windows? Put up the support beams? Create the structure?

I am ready! Let’s Talk: