Health & Well Being, Personal Stories

What Is Your View of You?

Recently I did an assignment where I was asked to ask 5 people I know well and 5 people I don’t know so well what they think my most valuable skills, abilities and unique traits are.

When I saw this exercise, I had a moment of being worried to ask. Do I really want to know what others think of me?  Will I like or not like their answers? How quick will they respond or do they have to think about it?

All this personal judging and assessing of myself reared its ugly head and I began to go down a bit of a tunnel.  Before I took the full turn into the tunnel of my brain where there is no coming back, I quickly typed up the text and sent it out to 10 people and exhaled as the question that was consuming my thoughts fired its way through cyberspace into the hands of 10 unknowing individuals.

Within minutes my phone began to ‘ding’ with incoming messages.  As I opened the texts I was flooded with emotions.  My eyes could not believe what I was reading. ‘optimistic, energetic, incredible listener, compassionate, exceptional leader, integral, extreme social intelligence, genuine as fuck, willingness to learn & unlearn to support communities, ability to always find the silver lining, writer, determination & stand, approachable’ & the list went on….

All the things I “wished” I could be were now before me in the eyes of others as to who I am…..I suddenly had nowhere to get to.  I could now see I AM these things I always “wished” I could be.

The text also had a few ask… “Are you applying for a job? I know a company that would love to have you!” Which made me giggle a little with flattery.  It also opened a communication of others asking this question back to me about them.  It became extremely empowering for everyone!

I see now that I have been relating to myself as small, not able to make a BIG difference…only a little blip on a screen and I had so much more work to do to be the person I always wanted to be.

But now, Here I am.

I share this as I do not feel that I am alone in my judgement or assessment of ones Self.  I do believe that the hardest person on our Self is typically our own Self! I was blinded by my own view and until asking others, unclear that there was any other view out there other than the small one I had created for me.

Doing this assignment awakened me to what I have actually been creating in the world and has given me an opportunity to move forward with all my goals knowing that I am who I always hoped I could be for myself and others.

I personally do not want to live my life alone. If I am to succeed, I want others to come with and know that I am here for them and we can make this world a better place TOGETHER.  The truth is I actually get that this dream of mine is completely possible and I have an incredible group of people around me that we are all cheering each other on to win.

I have pivoted on one foot out of the tunnel and back into the light to breathe new air into my lungs. Now it is time to take on life with rejuvenated passion and purpose knowing that I am bigger than my own thoughts.

If you are feeling stuck in a negative thought about yourself, I invite you to reach out to your community and be brave to ask this question. I truly believe you will learn a lot about who you REALLY are beyond the thoughts you THINK you are.

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Health & Well Being, Personal Stories

Self-care Comes FIRST

Seriously, this gets missed A LOT by MANY people!

Speaking from my own experience, I have a tendency to put everyone in my life’s needs before my own & by the end of the day, I am spent with no energy to give back to myself.

Recently, I have been switching it up.

Checking in with myself each MORNING & ensuring what I need from myself for the day, I get.

What this has shown me is that I am still able to be there & support others like I always did (if not even better now) & all my own personal needs are taken care of & I do not waiver from ensuring they are in a timely manner everyday!

So do what you need to do to take care of yourself FIRST & then watch how much easier it is to be there for others!

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Health & Well Being, Personal Stories

The Importance of Self Love…

I have been thinking a lot lately about how I take care of myself and questioning whether or not I really take the time to check in within myself and ask “how am I doing?”

Many of us go about our day ensuring that everyone around us has what “they” need and often times forget to check in and make sure we are taken care of.

Can anyone relate?

Only recently did I notice how not checking in with myself left me with this feeling of being like a hamster on a wheel running like mad to get things done and actually not getting anywhere.  Hamsters actually enjoy this activity, however, I have discovered for sure that I am NOT a hamster and that IS good news!

Here is what I discovered when I took the time to really look….what I needed was personal time to write.

I bet you thought I was going to say dance…Actually that would be second but WRITING…writing comes FIRST!

Writing is something that has always given me great pleasure.

For me, it is not something that I need to share with anyone and that being said, sometimes I choose to share my writing….but for the purpose of taking care of me, I just need time to write at least once a day.

Sometimes I know what I want to write about and sometimes it becomes what I refer to as a “mind dump”….just let it all out and then I can breathe again.

It is important to me that others understand that as successful as you may think I am, I literally am no different from anyone else. I forget to take care of myself sometimes.  I have thoughts that do not empower me all the time. Sometimes I really do not want to work out.

What I know though is that when I honor myself by taking time to write, bring back the positive thoughts and work out whether I “want to” or not, I always always always feel better and am able to support those around that I  love to the fullest!

It is important to discover at least one thing that you can do to take care of your SELF that will light you up and light your soul on fire!  Whatever it is for you, love it, give yourself the time to do it NO MATTER HOW BUSY YOU THINK YOU ARE and know that YOU are the most important person in your life.

Without YOU, there is NO amazing life!

YOU COME FIRST and all else FALLS INTO PLACE!

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Health & Well Being, Personal Stories

Aging Is A Gift….

I love aging!

What?!!! Yep! I said it! I do not worry or feel bad about it at all….  Here is why…

With age comes little wrinkles around the eyes that tell a story of one’s life.

Aging brings on wisdom that in itself is beautiful as well.

There is nothing to fear as we age….it is all a part of life and without it…we cease to exist.

So embrace the wrinkles and love who you are every minute of everyday! Aging is a gift that many do not get the opportunity to do.

Live Life. Laugh Lots. Make Memories.

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Personal Stories

Be Your Own Valentine!

Happy Valentine’s Day!

Yes, whether you have a “love” or not in your life, you do have one person who you can love and see every day……YOU!

I know I have, in the past, gotten caught up in this day as a sad day because I wasn’t in a relationship and suddenly it occurred like everyone else was.  The truth is, no matter what, you have one person to love 365 days out of the year (this year you get to love them 366 days! How sweet is that?!)….YOURSELF.

Love really begins with you and how you take care of and perceive yourself to be either amazing or a failure.  It comes down to choice.  When we are kind to ourselves, we give ourselves the room to grow in a world that is constantly changing.  If you are mean to yourself and tell yourself you are no good then you have no space to be anything that has possibility attached to it.

I declare that today is YOUR day!

Grab hold of it and make it your own! Take yourself out for lunch. Go get a massage, take a yoga class, go to the gym, dance in your kitchen, draw a nice bubble bath!  One of my favorite things to do when taking care of myself is to either pour a hot bath and set up my bathroom with Netflix and watch a movie from in the tub or just take a book in there and read.  I will then cook myself a great lunch or dinner and accompany it with a nice glass of wine.  I cheers to myself and say “Girl! YOU are pretty awesome! Keep rocking!”

It may sound crazy to some of you however, taking care of yourself FIRST will give room for others to come into your life and join you!  I met my Prince Charming only once I started to honor myself!

Try it out today!

Always remember, YOU are worth it!

Have an AMAZING Valentine’s Day!

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Benefits of Movement

It’s All About Fitness!

I can honestly say when I was really young I loved to dance and did so for many years. Then in high school, it all shifted and I could care less about working out.  Thank goodness there was one more shift and I found dance again!

When you are moving your body, whether it be to dance, in boot camp, running, swimming you are releasing the HAPPY healthy endorphins through your body.  I cannot say this enough times how great this is.

I was talking with a client just the other day and we were talking about how good we feel after class.  I was telling her how some days I have the thought that I would rather not have to go to class that day.

NOTE: Yes, your instructors have this thought too. Do not think that we are immune to that!

Of course I do go and after every class….actually the moment the first person arrives my energy begins to shift and as soon as the first note of the song comes pumping out of my stereo, I am energized and the healthy endorphins begin to flow.

It does not matter at what age you are currently at, what level of fitness you are at, everyone can work out.  Some may need to modify the moves and that is totally do-able! Get up today and get moving and go into your weekend feeling amazing!

Are you interested in being stress-free and feeling great in 2016?  Email me to find out about LOL Movement classes!!

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This guy on stilts even did my class one day at a street festival….if he can do it in stilts, what is your excuse? 😉

 

Personal Stories

Lessons Learned in Relationships & Loving Myself First!

I discovered after many relationships, that I did not need to lose my own identity to be with someone.  I used to have it like when I was in a relationship whatever the other person needed was more important than my needs.  Every relationship that I was in that went this way and soon I became one of feeling neglected and used constantly.  It took me a long time to see that it was not THEM that were making me feel this way. It was my own actions and who I was being in the relationship that had these emotions coming on.

It was so easy when starting a new relationship to blame others for how I was “feeling”….like they were doing something to me that I couldn’t stop.

In truth, I was trying to “fit the mold” that I thought they wanted so that I would be more lovable to them. Isn’t it crazy what we do as humans? I cannot be the only one who has done this!  We really do train people how to treat us!

When I stopped caring so much about what the other person thought or needed all the time and began to concentrate on what it was I needed or thought I became a strong woman who made her own choices.  I was no longer stopped by what they may think.  It is not even that I stopped caring all together or became selfish, I still cared.  There is a fine line between being there for another human being and being there for YOURSELF.

I learned that when I value myself and my opinions and take care of me first then it is so much easier to be there for someone else.  This even rang true with regards to my fitness.  As soon as I began to take care of myself physically by creating a workout plan AND sticking to it, I began to grown strong mentally and physically and no longer depended on the thoughts or opinions of others.  I became very independent.

For some, it is hard to see how fitness can really be so important in that.  Think of it this way, when you are happy in your body…..you know when you put that NEW dress on and it just slides over your body and you didn’t have to “tuck” anything in. It just fits perfect….or that moment when you do your hair and every curl falls exactly where you wanted it….or you do your makeup and you know you look hot?   It is a sensation of being on top of the world….like nobody can knock you down.  Fitness provides that to your body without needing to “fix up” your hair or makeup. It is not completely outer body need. Fitness supports you both inside and out!  You can’t put a bandaid on how you feel on the inside like you can with makeup and curling irons.  That stuff just hides the REAL YOU.

With working out, you can look like a sweaty mess BUT your confidence in that moment of having completed a class or lifting a certain amount of weights you have never done before or running that extra mile when you thought you may not be able to……THAT is the moment that your confidence and who you are soars!

I am often a sweaty mess.  Living in my workout gear. I can tell you one thing though….through fitness, I know who I am, what I stand for and exactly what I want in my relationships. What I will compromise for and what I won’t because at the end of the day I know I am worth it.

Loving yourself first and knowing who you are will give you the confidence and determination to find the right relationship for you. Never settle for anything less.  Fitness is freedom in relationships and in your life.

I can help you find the plan that works for you! Let me.

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Tammy has mad skills in supporting women (and men) in discovering who they are and what they want out of life.  If you are ready to take your love life and your love of yourself life to the next level, write to her now. First consultation call is free.

Benefits of Movement

Never Give Up!

In everyone’s life, at some point, we are faced with something that will have us wanting to throw in the towel or call it quits.

In those moments of feeling defeated is when we need to strap on our dance shoes (or runners) and get back up!

See, what I have learned over the years is that things are going to happen that are completely out of my control, however, how I respond to what is happening is 100% my choice!  I have found the one tool I can use in my tool box that always lights me up, is hitting the dance floor and rocking out to a great beat.

How does that solve the problem? You may be thinking…..

It doesn’t solve it.  This action takes care of me and how I relate to what is happening. By releasing healthy endorphins through my body by dancing, I shift the stress out.  This is my way of meditating, I guess you could say.  I am able to come up with solutions and/or just be able to manage my emotions about what is going on in a much more positive and productive way.

Try it out for yourself and never give up! You owe it to yourself!

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Benefits of Movement

Stay Healthy This Winter With These 5 Steps

With the holiday season officially upon us….snow officially fell here in Toronto yesterday so that is my sign….(people begin to change their workout habits with the first snowfall) I want you to win this holiday season by staying in shape mentally, emotionally AND physically!

There are FIVE steps that you can take to keep yourself happy and healthy this year:

1. DO NOT stop taking your classes or hitting the gym. (pretty obvious I believe).  I had a client say to me that sometimes when she gets home, especially when the weather gets colder, the LAST thing she wants to do is come back out into the cold. Her next response though was that she is clear the hardest part for her is just getting back out the door….when she can mentally psych herself into coming back out of the house (literally a one foot in front of the other experience) she is ALWAYS happy that she did!  Her words: “I take one step in front of the other until I open the door to your class and then I know I have already won!  It is soooo easy….once I mentally and physically make it to class, I feel good from head to toe when I leave!”

2. If you are snowed in….DANCE IN YOUR KITCHEN! Crank the radio, pull out all your veggies and yummy, healthy foods and dance and create in your kitchen! When I am not teaching, I am cooking and dancing in my kitchen.  Making healthy foods from hearty veggies curbs my cravings and with all the dancing I do while cooking, I am burning calories while making delicious veggie meals! It really is a WIN WIN!

3. Wear shoes with grips….ladies…put the high heels away when outside in the snow.  I love fashion but I love not having sprained ankles or a sore bum from falling even more!  Get yourself a fancy shoe bag if you must to keep it fashionable and put those puppies on once you are indoors.  Your feet, bum, back, neck, wrists…well your WHOLE BODY will thank you that you minimized the risk of falling this season!

4. Keep your yoga mat handy and stretch lots. With the cold weather upon us, we tend to want to curl up on the couch and be lazy. Keep your body moving and stretching. We also tend to brace ourselves more when we walk in the snow so we put a lot of tension into our muscles. Be like Gumby and stretch and bend each day.  It’s like putting oil in your car….you just run better if you do!

5. Treat yourself to a hot bath, chiropractic treatment, massage, reflexology, reiki session….Point #1 is really the MOST IMPORTANT but when you have completed any or all of these steps, take this step into account for sure. You deserve it! It is easy for most of us to give give give and not take anything for ourselves. This year I invite you to treat yourself. See, if you don’t take care of you…then what happens is you are less effective in giving back to others.  YOU ARE WORTH IT!

If you follow these simple steps, this winter will fly by!

Mentally prepare yourself and come join us for FREE first time class at 2389B St. Clair Avenue West, Toronto….Remember: ONE FOOT IN FRONT OF THE OTHER! See YOU there! 🙂

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Benefits of Movement

The Great Weight Debate!

I recently had a woman call me about classes and when I mentioned that one of the classes was a Zumba toning class, she responded that she didn’t want to “tone” anything she just wanted to lose weight.  She said toning was just going to make her “heavy” again.

There is a misconception, in my opinion, about weight loss.  Since we are little we are told that you are over weight, under weight or just the right weight, but really, whose opinion is all of this?  I spoke to you all about a month ago regarding my recent trip to the doctor and she being shocked that I weigh as much as I do. (141lbs and the doctor was convinced her scale must be broke because in her opinion I could weight more than 120lbs, if that)

By Body Mass Index Standards, I am over weight.  Now I know I am not over weight and many of my clients have told me I have lost weight.  Weight is referring to fat, so yes I have. I have burned the fat and toned the muscle that I have.

The toning of muscle is equally as important as burning the fat and when muscle weighs more than fat.  When muscles are toned, they are in their strongest form.  If you weigh more because of your TONED muscles then I say, YOU ARE AWESOME and working hard!

You need to feel good in your own skin. YOU are the only one who lives in it so for all the commercials, magazines, people in your life that tell you that you need to lose weight remind them that toning and inches are way more important than losing weight.  Above all, you need to personally feel comfortable and there is no other person who can tell you how your body feels to you!

Your body is your personal temple, take care of it!

It belongs to YOU!

**For the month of February, if you are a NEW client at our Children’s Palace classes, you can save $15 on a 10 class pass good for 3 months!  If you are looking for a way to work out and have fun while burning fat and toning what you got, fill in the form below and get in communication with us! We are here for YOU!

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