Health & Well Being, Personal Stories

What Is Your View of You?

Recently I did an assignment where I was asked to ask 5 people I know well and 5 people I don’t know so well what they think my most valuable skills, abilities and unique traits are.

When I saw this exercise, I had a moment of being worried to ask. Do I really want to know what others think of me?  Will I like or not like their answers? How quick will they respond or do they have to think about it?

All this personal judging and assessing of myself reared its ugly head and I began to go down a bit of a tunnel.  Before I took the full turn into the tunnel of my brain where there is no coming back, I quickly typed up the text and sent it out to 10 people and exhaled as the question that was consuming my thoughts fired its way through cyberspace into the hands of 10 unknowing individuals.

Within minutes my phone began to ‘ding’ with incoming messages.  As I opened the texts I was flooded with emotions.  My eyes could not believe what I was reading. ‘optimistic, energetic, incredible listener, compassionate, exceptional leader, integral, extreme social intelligence, genuine as fuck, willingness to learn & unlearn to support communities, ability to always find the silver lining, writer, determination & stand, approachable’ & the list went on….

All the things I “wished” I could be were now before me in the eyes of others as to who I am…..I suddenly had nowhere to get to.  I could now see I AM these things I always “wished” I could be.

The text also had a few ask… “Are you applying for a job? I know a company that would love to have you!” Which made me giggle a little with flattery.  It also opened a communication of others asking this question back to me about them.  It became extremely empowering for everyone!

I see now that I have been relating to myself as small, not able to make a BIG difference…only a little blip on a screen and I had so much more work to do to be the person I always wanted to be.

But now, Here I am.

I share this as I do not feel that I am alone in my judgement or assessment of ones Self.  I do believe that the hardest person on our Self is typically our own Self! I was blinded by my own view and until asking others, unclear that there was any other view out there other than the small one I had created for me.

Doing this assignment awakened me to what I have actually been creating in the world and has given me an opportunity to move forward with all my goals knowing that I am who I always hoped I could be for myself and others.

I personally do not want to live my life alone. If I am to succeed, I want others to come with and know that I am here for them and we can make this world a better place TOGETHER.  The truth is I actually get that this dream of mine is completely possible and I have an incredible group of people around me that we are all cheering each other on to win.

I have pivoted on one foot out of the tunnel and back into the light to breathe new air into my lungs. Now it is time to take on life with rejuvenated passion and purpose knowing that I am bigger than my own thoughts.

If you are feeling stuck in a negative thought about yourself, I invite you to reach out to your community and be brave to ask this question. I truly believe you will learn a lot about who you REALLY are beyond the thoughts you THINK you are.

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Benefits of Movement, Health & Well Being

Do You Suffer From Weather Headaches?

I don’t know about you…but I am VERY affected by weather changes.

Barometric changes are my nemesis!

I can tell when it is about to rain or snow…not by looking outside but by what I feel…the pressure on my head feels like I have my head in a vice and its slowly turning right behind my eyes.  It can come on pretty quick. In fact yesterday, it took 30 minutes to set in and literally have me in pain.

The ONLY thing I have truly found that works to relieve the pressure and headache onset is…you guessed it….Zumba!

While it may seem like “Why would you put loud music on and move when your head is killing?”

My response is “about 2 songs in, the oxygen is flowing fully again through my body and endorphins are releasing…. typically by the third song in I can feel CLEAR again and the vice on my head is no longer gripping me!”

The hardest part…ALWAYS…

Just getting to class when it is hurting so intensely.

Once I am there and get moving, it is like being released from a cement cloud that has engulfed me.

TODAY is a great day, for anyone suffering from weather shifts, to come out to class tonight and let me help you to release the pressure on your head through Zumba!

NO KIDDING! IT WORKS!  Hope to see you tonight! YOU CAN DO IT!\

839 Runnymede Road, Toronto.

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Health & Well Being, Personal Stories

Self-care Comes FIRST

Seriously, this gets missed A LOT by MANY people!

Speaking from my own experience, I have a tendency to put everyone in my life’s needs before my own & by the end of the day, I am spent with no energy to give back to myself.

Recently, I have been switching it up.

Checking in with myself each MORNING & ensuring what I need from myself for the day, I get.

What this has shown me is that I am still able to be there & support others like I always did (if not even better now) & all my own personal needs are taken care of & I do not waiver from ensuring they are in a timely manner everyday!

So do what you need to do to take care of yourself FIRST & then watch how much easier it is to be there for others!

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Health & Well Being, Personal Stories

The Importance of Self Love…

I have been thinking a lot lately about how I take care of myself and questioning whether or not I really take the time to check in within myself and ask “how am I doing?”

Many of us go about our day ensuring that everyone around us has what “they” need and often times forget to check in and make sure we are taken care of.

Can anyone relate?

Only recently did I notice how not checking in with myself left me with this feeling of being like a hamster on a wheel running like mad to get things done and actually not getting anywhere.  Hamsters actually enjoy this activity, however, I have discovered for sure that I am NOT a hamster and that IS good news!

Here is what I discovered when I took the time to really look….what I needed was personal time to write.

I bet you thought I was going to say dance…Actually that would be second but WRITING…writing comes FIRST!

Writing is something that has always given me great pleasure.

For me, it is not something that I need to share with anyone and that being said, sometimes I choose to share my writing….but for the purpose of taking care of me, I just need time to write at least once a day.

Sometimes I know what I want to write about and sometimes it becomes what I refer to as a “mind dump”….just let it all out and then I can breathe again.

It is important to me that others understand that as successful as you may think I am, I literally am no different from anyone else. I forget to take care of myself sometimes.  I have thoughts that do not empower me all the time. Sometimes I really do not want to work out.

What I know though is that when I honor myself by taking time to write, bring back the positive thoughts and work out whether I “want to” or not, I always always always feel better and am able to support those around that I  love to the fullest!

It is important to discover at least one thing that you can do to take care of your SELF that will light you up and light your soul on fire!  Whatever it is for you, love it, give yourself the time to do it NO MATTER HOW BUSY YOU THINK YOU ARE and know that YOU are the most important person in your life.

Without YOU, there is NO amazing life!

YOU COME FIRST and all else FALLS INTO PLACE!

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Benefits of Movement, Health & Well Being, Personal Stories

Real Men Zumba!

It is such an awesome time to have men showing up to take Zumba! The comments coming back from the men in my classes: “this is seriously the best workout!” “I do not even come close to sweating this much at the gym!””I am gonna take these moves to the club!”

Yes….I revel in this! 😉

Men, you have moves! I am not sure who or when some of you decided that dancing was a “girl” thing….it is FARRRRR from being just a girl activity! Zumba was even created by a man (Beto) so you know it’s gonna rock and be a killer workout!!!!

We have male instructors who ROCK the floor like Ronald Ko, Ricardo Marmitte, Jaime Farfan, Niles Said, Miguel Huber and many many many more!

A wise man once said “Whether you think you can or you can’t, you are absolutely RIGHT!” Why not give it a try! Learn to move your body and before you know it you will be sweating up the dance floor with the best of them!  Unleash your self-expression….rise above what you think you know….hit the floor and show yourself and all of us what you got!

To the men who Zumba I honor and thank you for dancing with us all and loving it as much as we do!

To the men who haven’t yet, I challenge you to get out to a class in your area and shake what your mamma gave you!

GAME ON! Let’s Go Guys!!!

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